演讲背景
男女在表达上的差异很多时候是受社会环境影响，一般而言男子表达简单直率，女子应该委婉含蓄，所以彼此在沟通上出现了不少有趣的事情。
英文稿 "Yes" or "No"
Edited by Eric John Jekins Sahlin
One of my friends had a crush on a lady and wanted to take her out for dinner, so he sent her this message: “I would like to invite you to dinner Saturday night, would you like to come?”
A few minutes later, came the reply: “Perhaps”.
My friend was puzzled as to whether the lady meant “Yes” or “No”, so he asked me to help him analyze the lady's concept of “Perhaps”. I laughed over his conundrum, then shared on a saying about a diplomat and a lady.
When a diplomat says “Yes!”, he means “Perhaps!”
When he says “Perhaps!”, he means “No!”
When he says “No!” directly, he is no a diplomat.
When a Lady says “No!”, she means “Perhaps!”
When she says “Perhaps!”, she means “Yes!”
When she says “Yes!” directly, she is not a Lady.
Gentlemen, you might think you need to take 3 steps to get a girl to say yes, actually two steps are enough: all you need to do is to turn her “No” into “Maybe”. Or just one step: sometimes even her “No” means “Yes”. So, the chance to turn a girl's “No” into “Yes” is high. However, telling the “Yes” from “No” is never easy.
If a girl seriously says that you are a good guy, you might think: “Oh, she is going to tell me “Yes.”. I am sorry to inform you that, in fact, the girl is saying “No”. Most girls are kind, they want to avoid hurting you, so the first step to say real “No” is to give you a compliment. Most of the time, after the sentence “you are a good guy”, there is always a “But”. If a girl tells you that you are a bad boy with a happy smile, don't think she says “No” to you, with these words, actually you can open the champagne to celebrate. Congratulations! She is saying “Yes” to you.
Gentlemen, for you “yes” and “no” only have literal meanings. “Maybe” really does mean “it might happen”; it doesn't mean “Yes” or “No”.
However, Women are different. Remember that men are from Mars, while women are from Venus, in other words, women are aliens to men, and vice versa So don't take it for granted that women will think and feel the same way you do.
For example, when a guy replies that he's “not thinking about anything,” he genuinely means he's thinking nothing. But when a woman says nothing's wrong, what she means is that “everything is wrong and it's your fault.”
If you believe her and think nothing is wrong, then whenever you say anything after that will start an argument, and the woman will have the last word in the argument.
If you are with a girl until late at night, you want to walk her home to make sure she gets home safely. She might say: “Oh, no, it is late, my house is far away. What's more, I am strong enough to protect myself.” Then she might even show you her biceps. Folks, believe me, don't take any notice of her refusal of your offer. Take her hand and walk with her, it will score a “Yes” for you; If a woman goes shopping with you and she sees one necklace she likes very much, the first reaction she has is to get in close to observe its quality, then the man might suggest:“Let's buy it.” Then the moment the girl sees the price tag, she will say: “Oh, no, it is too expensive.” Gentlemen, is she saying “No”? If you buy her the necklace, I bet that she will reward you with a big wet kiss.
Do you know the difference between “accomplished” and “finished”? When you can read a girl's “Yes” or “No” correctly, then your relationship will be “accomplished”, if you can't, then your relationship will be “finished”.
Gentlemen, please allow me to provide you with some unsolicited advice that you should learn to distinguish between a woman's “Yes” or “No” correctly. The accuracy of their assessment will make you a happy, help you accomplished your happiness.
中文稿 “是”还是“否”
我的朋友对一位女子一见钟情，想邀请她共进晚餐，于是他给她发了一条短信：“我想邀请你周六晚上共进晚餐，不知你是否赏脸？”几分钟后，我朋友收到她的回复：“也许吧。”
我朋友对美女的回复大惑不解，于是要求我站在女性的角度帮他分析这个“也许”究竟是“是”还是“否”。他的疑问让我捧腹大笑，与此同时，我想起关于淑女跟外交家的一段话。
面对提问，当外交家说“是”的时候，意味着“可能”。当外交家说“可能”的时候，就意味“不可能”。如果他断然地说“不可能”的话，那他一定不是个外交家。如果你问一个淑女，当她说“不”的时候，就意味着“可能”，她说可能的话，就意味着“是”，如果她说直接说“是”的话，那她就一定不是淑女。
先生们，你们是不是觉得要走三步，才能把一个姑娘的“不”变成“是”呢？其实两步就够，你只要把她的“不”变成了“可能”，那就行了。又或者一步就够了，你知道，有时候女人嘴里说不，心里说的却是“是”。把女孩子的“不”变成“是”的几率很高，但是要正确地把握女人的“是”和“不”却很难。
比方说，当一个女孩子对男孩子说“你是一个好人”，你也许会想，哦，她要接受我了。不好意思，别自作多情了，一般的女孩子都很善良，所以在拒绝你之前都会先夸一下你，通常女孩子在说完“你是个好人”之后，紧接着就是“但是”了。但是如果一个姑娘笑盈盈地跟你说“你这个坏男人”，别傻到家地以为妹子拒绝你，如果她这样说你就可以开香槟庆祝了，姑娘爱上你啦。
先生们，“是”就是“是”，“不是”就是“不是”，“可能”就是意味事情有可能发生，但是这几个字对于女孩子来说却有不同的含义。你要记住，女人来自金星，男人来自火星，换句话来说，对于男人来说，女人就是外星人，反之亦然。所以千万别认为女人的想法和感受跟你一样。
当男人说“我没事，没想什么东西”的时候，他真的只是发呆，没想什么事情。但是当你发现不妥，问女人“你怎么了”的时候，女人回答说“我没事”的时候就大事不妙了，她的意思是我有事，而且都是你的错。如果你相信她没事不采取任何补救措施的话，你说的任何一句话都可能引起争执，而她会决定整件事情的对错。
假如你跟一个女孩子在外到深夜，为保她安全到家，作为绅士，你会送她回家。这时候，她很可能会说：“不不不，很晚了，我的家又那么远，而且你看我那么壮，自己可以安全回去的。”她甚至会秀出她的“肌肉”来证明她的女汉子身份。同志们，千万别听她说，你要是握紧她的手，一直送到家门口，她心里肯定是美滋滋地给你一个大大的“是”。如果你陪一个女孩子去逛街，突然女孩子看见了她喜欢的项链，两眼发光，她的第一个反应就是靠近项链看看它的质量，欣赏欣赏它的美，这时候善解人意的绅士都会说：“喜欢吗？我买给你。”这时候，按照套路走，接下来，女孩子的对白自然就是：“不不不，这太贵了。”先生们，她这是在说“不”吗？听我说，掏出你的腰包，亮出你的白金卡，拿下这项链。她肯定会赏你一个热吻。
同志们，你们知道“完满”跟“完蛋”的区别吗？如果你可以正确的判断出女人的“是”跟“否”，你的生活就完满了；如果你判断错误，那你的生活就完蛋了。
先生们，请允许我给你们提一个不成熟的小建议，你们需要察言观色，正确判断女人的“是”与“否”，你的判断正确与否跟你们的幸福程度成正比。